We’d like to think it doesn’t happen anymore, that women don’t have to deal with this kind of disrespect in this new millennium, but that’s not so. Women are still being abused and beaten. Children are still having to watch their mother’s be beaten wondering if they’re next, often they are.
Abuse isn’t only physical, it takes many forms, verbal abuse is sometimes even more cruel that physical abuse because the way you think is the target of the abuser. I know what it’s like to be told you don’t know what you’re talking about and, “Shut up stupid” and various other insults and dismissives if you hear it enough you start to believe it, you can’t help it if someone that you think loves you says that to you. The sad thing is that people like that can’t love anyone because they don’t love themselves.
Respect starts from within, Love starts from within they are emotions you have to feel within yourself in order to be able to apply those feelings to others. If you don’t, you can’t relate to how that feels and understand that you don’t hurt those you love.
The National Domestic Abuse Hotline is there to help you form an escape plan to get out of your situation if you are afraid to leave of your own volition.
February 7, 2007 That National Domestic Violence Hotline and Liz Claiborne, Inc. announced the launch of LoveisRespect.org the National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline. It’s hard to imagine that our kids could be dating someone that is abusing them, or worse, they are the abuser. I have a son, and while it’s hard for me to imagine that he would be that kind of a person, I recognize the need to teach him to respect himself and others.
You can take a quiz on the site to find out if your relationship is what it should be or if it needs a makeover. You can sign up to receive the Real Love eNewsletter a well. The LoveIsRespect.org blog has real questions and answers about things that teens are dealing with today.
Not only women are the subject of abuse, someone in my own family who is female has a history of abuse, verbal and physical against family and partners. Men get abused as well, and worse they are chastised for it because they’re men. But they face a double standard in this instance, they’re raised not to strike a woman, never lay hands on a woman and here’s this woman provoking and abusing him!
Sadly these women know the power that we hold as victims and usually are successful in making it appear as self defense and sometimes the man who is the victim is further victimized because police can’t tell and they take him to jail.
If you know someone that is being abused or you are being abused, call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit The National Domestic Violence Hotline website. The website also has an alert that pops up to warn you that your computer could be monitored, and if you think that’s a possibility not to visit the page and just call.
Additionally, if you know your pc is not monitored but you don’t want to be caught, there is an escape button in the top right corner of the page that redirects you back to your homepage. You are encouraged to test it immediately upon landing on the page to be sure that it works.
MouthyGirl advocates knowing your voice, hearing your own voice and marching to your own drum, not letting anyone try to steal that from you. You deserve better than that.