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I hope you all had a good time yesterday reminiscing with family, or spending time with them watching the game. Whatever you did I hope you enjoyed it and took a day off to think about the good things in your lives.

Yesterday, I got to sleep in. Til 9:00 a.m., and that’s late for me. Then I got some laundry in the wash and we went shopping for the ingredients to a casserole that everyone likes for us to make. We finished in the nick of time and were only ten minutes late arriving at the hubby’s parent’s house.

As we sat around the table gobbling up this year’s feast, I thought about the years I’ve spent with my wonderful man, and how I’ve gotten to know his family, and he mine. When you’re young you don’t think about this part of life a lot, you don’t look forward to the time where you’re growing your family ties, or at least I didn’t. I thought I would always be a loner, someone who spent a lot of time alone, and even thought I wanted that. Now that I’m getting older, I don’t want that and I realize that I like to have people in my life that care about me and that I care about as well.

Now I’m going to tell you the things I’m thankful for and I hope you’ll indulge me in the comments and tell me what you’re thankful for this year. I’m thankful for finding a man when I did that loves me for me and loves my son as his own. For that I am truly lucky and thankful. I’m thankful for my son who makes my life complete in every way. I am thankful for the time I spent getting to know him, and glad that I know him as well as I do, and can keep him in line pretty well because I know him well.

I am grateful for my sisters, and in laws. I am thankful that that the stroke my Dad had didn’t take his life, I feel lucky every day that he’s still here and realize now how important it is to tell people that you love them, so that there’s no question.

I am grateful that I have the knowledge to blog for you every day, that I have inspiration to write and even when I don’t you read it anyways.

I am grateful that you read MouthyGirl, that you find what I have to say interesting is incredible to me and for that I thank you. Though it’s late, I got you something…

I know I didn’t have to, but I wanted to…you can find it here.

Have a happy weekend everyone and see you Monday!

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Today’s email comes from my cousin in Kansas and is very very funny.

Always Check Your Kid’s Homework..

The truth is, regardless what it looks like, Mom was selling a broom, she works at Home Depot.

LMFAO!!! Get your minds out of the gutter!

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Last Friday, Abraham Biggs, a 19 year old college student, committed suicide streaming live on Justin.tv in Miami, Florida. A friend emailed me the story that made AOL News, but nothing I heard about on local news.
After reading the story I had to consider what I would do if I were watching someone streaming live on the internet who was threatening suicide. Having never been faced with this type of situation, I don’t think I can say what I would do, I would like to think I would contact the website administrator to contact authorities because they would most likely have the information on the individual person to better direct the police to this person’s location so that they could receive the proper help.

But, because I was not watching this I can only speculate what my actions, or reaction would be. In reading the accompanying article, it’s said that he’s threatened suicide on numerous occasions, I can only believe that these people were regulars in chatting and corresponding with Mr. Biggs. If that is the case, I can only say to those who did nothing, “Shame on you!” Regardless if the threat has been made previously or not, a threat of suicide is a cry for help. Clearly, no one answered that call until it was too late for Mr. Biggs.

Further, there were some who egged him on! Can you believe we have such callous people in our society? I guess it’s naive of me to believe otherwise but I am horrified that someone would encourage another to end their life.

Having been touched by the affects of suicide in my personal life as a teenager, I can tell you that losing someone you love to suicide has lasting effects on a person’s psyche. I cannot fathom losing a child to suicide. Rosalind Biggs, Mr. Biggs sister has lost a brother, and says in the article that she does not understand and that it was unexpected.

There is no understanding the motives of suicide, and it is NEVER expected. She will always be left with questions, with “Why?” and trying to grasp at reasons, something to justify what happened. But there is no justification, he has robbed his sister, his parents and nieces of a future with him, watching him turn into a man, raise a family of his own and grow old.

So I ask you, What would you do?

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Life does nothing consistently except change.

It’s the one thing that everyone has in common. The one topic we can all discuss, that amazes us even though we know it’s coming. Regardless of how life treats you or me, that’s the one thing we will always have in common, that our lives can, have and will change in an instant.

I’m looking at going back to school in the spring semester. Thinkin’ I need to brush up on my writing skills, a few little other things I need to tighten up are also on the agenda. Going back to school gives me mixed feelings, I feel like I’ve reached a place in my life where I can turn to any number of fields and make a living, but I’m not satisfied. I find that I go home stressed over problems that are not my own, being treated in a way I do not relish at all and just generally hating what I do. I’ve learned a lot in this field and others and know that I could survive doing either of them. But I don’t want to do either of them.

So I had to decide if I was content enough to keep going at the pace I was going or if I wanted to climb. I choose to climb. I’ve always been reaching, even when my spirit and mind are at their weakest, I still reach. Do you?

Maybe contentment is all you ever wanted, and if that’s you, congratulations if you are there. Reaching is not for everyone, you have to know yourself, and above all be happy. Sure I have hard days, stressful days and days that I’d like to tell my boss to take this job and shove it. But at the end of the day, I try really hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I don’t have to be there everyday for the rest of my life. I don’t have to deal with those people beyond that 8-5 I’m obligated to be there for. And this doesn’t have to be what I do for the rest of my life.

That’s what I tell myself. That’s my light at the end of the tunnel, and going back to school will get me going on the road a little faster. I enjoy writing. Even if you aren’t reading it and I’m only getting hits from myself and my few local supporters because they know me, I still enjoy it. I find that I can envelop myself in the world of writing and brainstorm and come up with ideas to write about here, better than I can do anything else. And I’m good at most everything I set my mind to. But writing comes easier to me than anything else I have ever done.

Change is welcome at my door anytime. It brings about excitement, knowledge, and a lot of times fun. So I’m going to go with the flow, roll with this next change in my life and dive back into the world of education and get a little more of that pie for me.

What will you be changing in the coming year?

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Don’t you ever wonder what the thought process is that allows some people to do certain things…to you the end result is predictable, obvious even and yet to some people there is a naivete about them and they do things that make us laugh. Very very hard.

For example…this guy who wrote a rap song about shooting someone. Called out his victim’s name in the song even! I bet he’s sitting in jail right now, wondering why he’s there. DUH! What was the thought process man???

And I also read a story that I thought was pretty funny, not really a what was the thought process, dumbass kind of thing, but funny just the same…here’s the video of a flamingo being recaptured for the zoo that it lives in. LOL!

Then there’s the thought process behind genius ideas that makes me wonder…could I have an idea that made everyone say “Wow!”? Is it possible that I too, could one day inspire awe? Last night I sat down after hearing the hubby exclaim in awe a few times and watched as he navigated the “New Xbox Live Experience” and I gotta tell ya, it kicks ass!

You can read more about it here and see a demonstration you too will be impressed. If you own an Xbox and have an Xbox Live account and haven’t been on in a few days, check it out, you’ll be super impressed and I’m no gamer.

Well anyways everyone, I’m in a great mood today because it’s almost Friday! See y’all tomorrow!

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I’m often asked when I mention MouthyGirl.com to people, what do I write about? Who is my audience? I am always left scrambling for words, trying to explain why I do this and who I’m doing it for.

The simple answer is I do it for myself. I write and hopefully some like minded individuals and even those not like minded, will read what I’ve written and either think I’m crazy or want to read more. The latter of course is what I hope for.

I started this site initially just intending to get my voice out there. To join the chorus of women who have found a place to have their opinion heard, however small a number of people there are listening. To show that my opinion is not unlike others out there and to hopefully attract a community of people who feel like I do about the world and all that goes on in it.

Tired of the bullshit, tired of the games, ready for people to realize what’s important in life and stop all the nonsense. I realize there are always going to be those that love the bullshit, games and nonsense I’m just not one of them, and I thought surely I’m not alone in that.

Honestly I want to parlay this into a magazine someday. Add a few other writers, maybe a couple of review writers too. Maybe one day that magazine will turn into a tv channel or network or something where we can have our own MouthyGirl version of the news. I don’t know, but I have ambitions and thought I’d just let you as my readers lead me where you want me to go. Trouble is you guys don’t talk much.

My overall point to writing this blog is to share an alternative opinion. One that doesn’t care about Hollywood and celebrities and what the tabloid news has to tell us. I don’t have big ideas for a movement of some sort, or an uprising of any kind. Not at all. I just know I’m not the only one out there that’s tired of having smoke blown up my ass by our government, being told that Hollywood determines sexy and working my ass off to end up in credit card debt hell.

I’m tired of being constantly advertised at and having products marketed to me that have no appeal at all, medicines that have side effects that are worse than the initial problem. We are a nation more inclined to drug our children instead of disciplining them and have simply stopped teaching them how to be good men and strong women for our future.

We give our kids diagnoses of ADD and ADHD and prescribe them Ritalyn to slow them down, changing their chemical makeup. Starting a chemical dependence early in life to solve problems. We are a nation always looking for a pill. A cure all. We are a do no work nation, make a pill for it and I’ll take it, but if it involves work, no thank you, I just can’t do it.

I for one am tired of it. Tired of all the bullshit in this nation, the unnecessary bullshit. It’s time for every man and woman in this nation to get with it, get after it and get right. I’m here to talk about that. To talk about things that matter to us. Not always, I’ll deviate sometimes to something silly, but I’ll always try to talk about things that matter to the real people in this world, the ones out their giving it their all every day.

How are you doin?

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We are constantly told how we should look. Always being told (male and female) what we are is not good enough. Well I say enough is enough. I think we should all start taking better care of ourselves, our husbands and our families and letting that world, that inner personal sanctum of life be where we focus all of our energy. Your relationship with your spouse for example…how is it? Have you asked him/her lately?

I’ve gotten out of the habit but for a long time after the hubby and I became more serious I would periodically ask him just out of the blue if we were okay. It opened the conversation up for any criticisms or discussion about anything that he felt we might need to talk about, and it wasn’t during a fight which is undoubtedly the worst time to bring up an issue you have with your significant other.

You have to take care of that relationship, cultivate the strongest relationship that you can, trust him/her and expect them to trust you and don’t do anything to break that trust. Don’t lie, don’t hide things and don’t be an asshole. Most importantly, know what’s important to the other person in this partnership you have. Know what their goals are, dreams and aspirations. It will help you to support them, encourage them, and bring them back on course when they might lose their way. That’s your job after all as their significant other, to be the other half, not necessarily the better half, but do be the other half, not half ass.

Then there’s the most fun part of the relationship. That too needs conversation, cultivation and most importantly, action! You know I’m talking about SEX. Recently I went to a “slumber party” at my sister’s house hosted by her friend, Melody. It was a fun party and brings attention, on a personal and intimate level (without embarrassment) to your sex life. Offering options and new tricks and techniques…it’s important to work your thing, you know what I mean?

Let’s face it people, we all have sex, and if we’re not we’re wishing we were. There’s no reason to be embarrassed about it in my opinion, honestly if you don’t take care of that sex life, it will not take care of itself. If you don’t enjoy sex, find out what that’s all about and do what you can do to ensure it’s enjoyable for you, because it is very important.

Don’t leave your man/woman hanging and only give it up occasionally, after a while they’ll begin to have feelings of self doubt and think you aren’t attracted to them anymore. They may not tell you that, but it’ll happen. You don’t want to be the reason someone else feels unloved and unattractive, especially if that person is your one and only.

If you love someone, love them right. Give it all you have and then more. Don’t expect them to do all the work, and don’t you do all the work either. You have to be the right person, try to be nice, don’t say things you don’t mean and really give it your all. We all have off days, but don’t make your relationship one big off day. Just because you’re past dating and you may have a few children doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have date night. With your partner and one with your kids, they love the idea of “dating” their parents. Especially if they know Mom and Dad still “date” they’re naturally going to want to be part of that.

Love your kids, take lots of pictures of them, make them laugh, tell them you love them and try to remember what it was like to be in their shoes. Remember that they’re just kids and let them be little. Let them be kids. Forgive them when they mess up and show them how to do right. Tell them about sex even if it makes you uncomfortable. Tell them about drugs even if you don’t want to, they need to know what their parents think, or by not talking about it they’ll think it’s okay.

What you don’t address leaves open for your kids to hear from other kids what they think. They want to know what people think, you gotta tell them what’s important to you, because they’ll listen. Talk to them when they’re teenagers about how cute they were when they were little, they like it.

Take care of you and yours. Stop worrying about what the rest of the world might think of you and worry about what your family thinks of you, they’re the ones that matter, your family’s opinion of you is the most important of all.

Don’t let them down. Forget about what goes on outside your front door and realize your priorities again. We get so caught up in the outside world we as a nation have been ignoring our homes, our children, our spouses. Families across this nation have been falling apart for years, kids grow up and get a therapist. It’s time for all the nonsense to stop. We drug our kids instead of hug our kids. Don’t you see what’s wrong with the picture?

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