There’s a tendency in all of us I believe to doubt ourselves, discrediting our inherent ability to survive. One thing I always told my baby sister and will tell my son as he gets older, there’s no one but you at the end of the day, rely on yourself as much as possible and only accept help when you have to from people you trust. Don’t expect someone to take care of you if you can’t, or won’t.
Self reliance is the only key to freedom that exists, being dependant on someone else should be a phase of life, and it already has a title… Childhood. The reason it’s important to be self reliant is simple, you call the shots in your own life. No one is able to hold you down if you know that you can make it on your own.
Women are expected to be reliant on someone and I think its fair to say that while that expectation is diminishing, it still exists for a large majority. “The weaker sex”, we have been called, in agreement with @mommaserene I too feel that “being a man” no longer means to be strong and take care of business, it seems the meaning has mutated into a dependant, high maintenance majority of men who are not adequate to lead the home, much less carry off a successful career.
Let me make myself clear, this is a societal observation, we have a reality show about house husbands people, gimme a fucking break. The house wife shows are just as ridiculous. What ever happened to minding our own damn business? What ever happened to self respect? My favorite commercial is the Geico one with R. Lee Army acting like a therapist yelling at the guy on the couch and throwing the kleenex past him. Get some damn self respect.
My point is that we have become a nation that is dependant, and addicted to that dependancy. Example? Credit cards. We want someone to take care of us so badly that we will manufacture a plastic caretaker that gives us what we want.
Its time to grow up. Do what you gotta do and take care of you because at the end of the day, it’s just you in your mirror deciding if you have been the best person you could be.