Raising Eyebrows

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I can think of situations I’ve been in where people have been surprised at what I’ve said to them. I don’t make problems but I don’t sugar coat anything, its not my job to make other people comfy with reality.  I’ve always considered it a valuable trait, truthfully, as with anything, there is a time and a place where that’s not appropriate and to that end I am completely respectful of those boundaries. 

There have been changes in my life recently that have renewed my sense of independence and I’ve stopped censoring myself almost completely in situations that I don’t have to. Good for me, surprising to some around me. I’ve been subdued for a long time, agreeable…gasp….even likable.  That’s all over now. 😉

My point with this post is to tell you that you don’t have to be agreeable either, some of us live with the belief that we shouldn’t rock the boat, I agree, don’t rock the boat – flip the bitch!  Tell people where they stand, be honest with yourself and everyone else-it’s refreshing.  Raise eyebrows, surprise people with your honesty, deliver it kindly but with purpose, and more importantly – don’t confuse transparency with meanness.

I will warn you though, when you stop creating drama, someone else will – beware.


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  1. I’ve been doing that for years, off and on. I go through phases where sometimes I really want people to like me and others I really couldn’t care less. I’ve lost a lot of friends that way, but gained a lot better ones in the process, because we at the Giant 9 are always blunt, straightforward and honest. In my union work, sometimes the bluntness is a blessing because I feel comfortable telling people, no really, you fucked up this time and need to take the lumps, but other times it just makes ’em think I don’t care and try to go around me (which doesn’t work; I’m top of the food chain in my building, LOL). It’s a lot a cultural thing, too. In Texas, it’s accepted to be completely blunt and honest, but in other parts of the world it’s not. Especially in my work where people come from round the world, that can be a serious problem because non-Texans think Texans are mean. We’re not mean, we just don’t have time to beat around the bush. Texas is a lot bigger than the other states and I bet that has something to do with it. Texans have a lot more travel time in their future than others, so we get the talking out of the way so we can get back on the road.

    You’re right about the drama though. As soon as you drop it from your life, somehow it becomes even more dramatic! In my case, I dropped dramatic friends only to have my family go all drama queen on me. Ugh. Can’t get away from family, dammit.

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