I can think of situations I’ve been in where people have been surprised at what I’ve said to them. I don’t make problems but I don’t sugar coat anything, its not my job to make other people comfy with reality. I’ve always considered it a valuable trait, truthfully, as with anything, there is a time and a place where that’s not appropriate and to that end I am completely respectful of those boundaries.
There have been changes in my life recently that have renewed my sense of independence and I’ve stopped censoring myself almost completely in situations that I don’t have to. Good for me, surprising to some around me. I’ve been subdued for a long time, agreeable…gasp….even likable. That’s all over now. 😉
My point with this post is to tell you that you don’t have to be agreeable either, some of us live with the belief that we shouldn’t rock the boat, I agree, don’t rock the boat – flip the bitch! Tell people where they stand, be honest with yourself and everyone else-it’s refreshing. Raise eyebrows, surprise people with your honesty, deliver it kindly but with purpose, and more importantly – don’t confuse transparency with meanness.
I will warn you though, when you stop creating drama, someone else will – beware.