In my life, I’ve had a lot of friends come and go, I’ve learned to classify them into different categories by the way they behave.
I have die hard friends, who I know, unless I screw something up, will be my ride or die friends til the end. Those are few and far between.
I have selfish friends, who love me when they need me, periodically say hello when they’re busy, and like to ask my advice when they fall on rough times. These friends, tend to be the type that aren’t around as much when my life is going good, most especially when they aren’t happy.
I have party friends, who can’t be bothered to hang out unless it’s some kind of party. I’ve only just recently encountered that type.
Then I have the fake, nasty nice friends. The ones who are in my life as a means to use me, or make themselves feel better because they consider themselves better than me. These are the ones I cycle through, once I peg them, they’re out.
I think the hardest thing for me, is the reckoning sometimes, between what I had hoped for in the friendship and what it actually turns out to be. This is the hard part, but it’s necessary for my own peace of mind that I recognize who is really there for me, and who really isn’t. I can’t wander aimlessly and hope for the best, I’ve outgrown that stage where I’m ok with not knowing. I only want people in my life that want to be there, that appreciate me for who I am, the friend I am and the person I want to be.
How do you categorize your friends?