“Don’t mistake my kindness for weakness. I am kind to everyone but when someone is unkind to me, weak is not what you are going to remember about me.” – Al Capone
Think about that statement for a minute. I have the same attitude, though I may not outright say this to people, I’m fairly sure it doesn’t take much for this impression to be made. What happens when someone challenges you in a way that makes you angry, or causes you some injustice that makes you want vengeance in some way?
How do you normally react? As humans we often blame others for our feelings-almost as a default reaction, and think nothing of it. But is that a justified reaction? Is that the most mature way to handle a situation? For me, this is when I become methodical. If I need to eliminate someone from my life, then it is done. If I need to prove my point so that the relationship remains equal, then I do so in a caring way. But if someone has caused me an injustice that must be corrected – I make a plan and I execute it. Every situation is different so without citing examples, I assure you, people know when they’ve done something to me they shouldn’t have.
I’m not so indebted to anyone that I can’t walk away. I don’t owe anyone anything in my opinion – just as no one owes me anything. I don’t feel as if I must maintain relationships to people out of obligation. It’s a very free way to live. I’m very happy with my life this way and wouldn’t change it. It does give people the impression that I’m stuck up sometimes, and I understand that. However, the people who know me, completely understand, and they’re the ones that matter anyways.