In my most recent post I called out a particular behavior I’ve seen in men that has been disturbing me for some time (and I believe I’ve written about it before), but in this edition of MouthyGirl, I’m going to talk about the shit chicks do that annoy me, because this shit makes all women look bad.
I’ve dated a few guys that have had relationships before that when they speak about things in that previous relationship – I am just shocked at how crappy some women are to someone they loved or at least cared for at one time or another. Sometimes I am certain that some women have that mindset that they can do whatever the hell they want and their man is supposed to just put up with all kinds of craziness. I’m here to tell you – you’re doing damage to the good men out there. Cut it the fuck out, be nice, it’s not really that hard. You get so much more out of it, appreciation, adulation and loyalty.
Expecting him to be the giver. Guys like to be needed, but they have needs too, as do ALL humans. If you ignore his needs, he will eventually withdraw – even if he sticks around still – he’s not the same guy if he doesn’t have his needs met..and eventually he’ll stop caring about yours.
Not letting him be the man. Don’t make all his decisions, or try. Don’t tell him what to wear, eat, drink or how to behave. You picked him – did you pick him to fix him? Get a dog – that’s what you train, treat the man like a man.
Playing verbal or mind games. Say what you mean ladies, he cannot read your mind and if he could, your ass would be in trouble. You don’t have to be a bitch to get what you want, if you want something – ask for it! The worst he can tell you is no, or some variation of that. You’ll live to fight another day – I promise.
Don’t “act” like you care, really care about his day, his health, his feelings. They have the feels too, and a lot of men are taught to stuff them or hide them and that’s just a recipe for disaster and an unhappy man. Ask him how his day is, if he complains about an ailment, offer to help him or at least show some sympathy. If you can’t muster some give a shit for him, chances are you should end it.
If I ask a man how his day is, and he’s surprised to have that question – all the bitches before me are just that, bitches. You don’t have to be a bitch to get what you want in life, or in a man. One of your most important lessons ladies, is that there is a time and a place for EVERYTHING. Save the bitch for situations that really call for it, like someone messing with your kids or your family. But if you want to be loved, you have to give love.
I don’t know if it’s because we have boobs or because some of us are watching too much E! or Lifetime, but drama, fighting, crying to get what you want, expecting unreasonable things..some women are insufferable!
A couple tips: If you have nothing nice to say, shut the hell up. If you can’t be genuinely appreciative of your guy, you likely need to end it. Jealousy is not part of a relationship, it’s part of a disfunctional relationship. If you can’t trust a guy – you need to look inside at why you have such issues and figure that shit out – get right girl. Insecurity is your problem to solve, not his.
As always, feel free to share your comments, anything you’d like to add to this list – or if you disagree…I love your feedback. So give it! 😉
P.P.S.: And ladies, for fucks sake, STOP BRAGGING ABOUT BEING CRAZY! IT’S NOT CUTE!