I can’t always express myself eloquently. Maybe it’s a lazy brain issue or a lack of a desire to always find the fancier words, I’m not really sure. But I know that there are things that I feel passionately about that I have spent time reading about, researching, thinking about, etc. but that I can no longer explain to others as if I just made my decision. So sometimes, when I’d like to elaborate on my views about things, I just don’t. That stems from two things, the one I just mentioned, I can’t remember all the details that helped me arrive at my decision; and also, I feel I’ve reached an age where I no longer have to defend my views on anything, much less explain myself.
That’s not to say I’m not open to discussion about things of all nature, I rather like discussion and appreciate others’ views immensely. My problem is when the other party in the discussion goes into persuasion mode and they maybe don’t realize that just because I don’t oppose their opinion doesn’t mean that I will follow them to their side of thinking. I might even be openly/vehemently resistant sometimes and not care to explain why…because again – I’m past that in life. I don’t need other people to agree with my views for me to have them. They are mine.
This isn’t often a situation in my life, so don’t get me wrong, my daily life is pleasant – problems tend to be of my own creation and I lead a fairly simple existence. Occasionally though, someone comes into my orbit that’s uber passionate and wants everyone to jump on their bandwagon. I’m not a bandwagon kind of girl – besides those wagons get too full anyhow. But we’ve all seen these people in action, maybe you’re the one that gets taken in and enraptured by this; maybe you’re the one in your own world paying no attention. Me? I’m the one that’s on the outskirts of the throng of people listening, observing and watching the reactions of the others around.
It’s an interesting thing to watch. I believe there are a few types of people generally, there are always variations and strengths and weaknesses but fundamentally – I believe there are only a few. Maybe this is why psychology was so attractive to me at one time, I find it intriguing the way that the mind works and the chemicals in us that make each individual mind work so very differently from another – but yet somehow, the same.
You’ve got the Leaders, these aren’t usually the ones on a bandwagon trying to get you up there with them – those are the Alphas of the Leaders. The Leaders among leaders (or the positively insane, your choice) are those who will explain their truths like they are common sense, and worse, others not of similar mindset might feel left out of this magic, this way of life this leader enjoys.
Then you have the Free Thinkers, who make up their own minds after input from various sources, these are the individuals that might provide a captive audience but won’t necessarily pick up what the Leaders try to put down.
Then you have the Followers. They might resist the notion at first, so as not to appear openly as followers, but eventually – if the Alpha Leader is persuasive enough…there they go.
To that end, I think I’m an Alpha Free Thinker. If I’m passionate enough about the subject, I’ll throw in and discuss it, and that can be a lot of fun. If it’s a discussion with a smart, respectful person who can debate without hate, then it’s a fun time.
Have you ever found yourself on the receiving end of an unexpected pitch? Like hanging out with friends for karaoke and someone joins the group and wants to sell Avon or something?
LOL – am I the only one this happens to?