This was one of the first posts on MouthyGirl.com shortly after her launch in February 2008. It’s hard to believe that it’s been around that long, and looking back, it’s also crazy to think about all that has changed in my life, and I’m sure yours as well.
These little notes are the kind we should always keep in mind..
Maybe … we were supposed to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that, when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.
Maybe … when the door of happiness closes, another opens; but, often times, we look so long at the closed door that we don’t even see the new one which has been opened for us.
Maybe … it is true that we don’t know what we have until we lose it, but it is also true that we don’t know what we have been missing until it arrives.
Maybe … the happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Maybe … the brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; after all, you can’t go on successfully in life until you let go of your past mistakes, failures, and heartaches.
Maybe … you should dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go, be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you dream of, and want to do.
Maybe … there are moments in life when you miss someone — a parent, a spouse, a friend, a child, your girlfriend/boyfriend — so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real, so that once they are around you appreciate them more.
Maybe … the best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had.
Maybe … you should always try to put yourself in others’ shoes. If you feel that something could hurt you, it probably will hurt the other person, too.
Maybe … you should do something nice for someone every single day, even if it is simply to leave them alone.
Maybe … giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they will love you back. Don’t expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart; but if it doesn’t, be content that it grew in yours.
Maybe … happiness waits for all those who cry, all those who hurt, all those who have searched, and all those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of all the people who have touched their lives.
Maybe … you shouldn’t go for looks; they can deceive; don’t go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one who makes your heart smile.
Maybe … you should hope for enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, and enough hope to make you happy.
Maybe … you should try to live your life to the fullest because when you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling, but when you die, you can be the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.
… Maybe!!
Faith Hill – Stronger
Maybe you should come back tomorrow to see what else I have for you Manana!
I can’t stand excuses. I hate it when people blame their shortcomings on anything but themselves. You are responsible for your own future and your own happiness.
If you don’t like where you are in your life, you can change it. Unless of course you’re in prison and in that case, thanks for getting caught.
Its time for grown ups to just grow up already and make their dreams happen, that’s what separates “the men from the boys” so to speak, motivation and how far you’re willing to go to reach your goals.
Showing an unwillingness to change and learn new things and expand your own possibilities shows weakness of character and lack of motivation. Not traits to be proud of or even want to be obvious, unless you’re a comic and then even I’ll make an exception if you’re funny.
What I’m trying to say is that there is nothing stopping you from getting what you want except……you.
You can go through life being told what to do by people who do not have your best interests in mind OR you can make your own decisions, if you want to go back to school – no one is going to walk up to you and hand you a scholarship just because you want it. You go and you research available scholarships and you apply and you go to school. The one constant in all of this, is you.
So the real question to ask yourself if you find that you are not happy in any situation is, “What can I do to change this?” Then…..do it.
In April of 2009 I quit my job as a legal assistant for a work at home job….and it didn’t work out….my “employer” ended up not having the ability to pay me when his financial backing backed out. I hadn’t been out of work a day in my life since I started working and I didn’t know what to do, where my next rent payment would come from and how on earth I was going to feed the family on one salary when we’d been barely making it on two.
This is not the first time I’ve dealt with a life changing circumstance.
First, I told myself, be positive. I said self, “I have always been employed, it stands to reason that I am a reliable, important employee and someone needs me or I’d have been out of work a little more often.”
It was scary, eye opening and now that I look back without my rose colored glasses – I should’ve known better than to make an emotional decision. At the heart of the whole thing, I hated my job and it wasn’t the job, it was my boss. He had a way of making you feel like the smartest dumbass on the block and he was the only one that could bring the genius out. I had to part ways with that man and I took the first train out. If I had thought it through more, I would have realized that making that jump was a bad idea.
Suddenly, two weeks after my 30th birthday, I realized I didn’t have a paycheck coming and made the first of what I expected to be a few phone calls to borrow money until I got a job, from my family. I was very fortunate that I had someone that I could call, then I touched up my resume, which I’d been doing for a while anyways so there wasn’t much to be done there, and then I started scouring the area for jobs.
I was scared of what would happen, uncertain of our future and not sure how long it would be until I found another job, let’s face it, they’re not in the plentiful supply that some of us have been used to in other times. I found a job though, and it happened quicker than I expected, I have a large skillset to offer as well reliability, accountability and consistency. My resume speaks for me and I can interview pretty well most of the time.
“When your work speaks for itself, don’t interrupt.” -Henry Kaiser 1882 – 1967
It wasn’t the end of the world, as with most trials that we face in life, it was scary but I survived. Hardships in life present themselves for two reasons, you bring it on yourself with a bad decision, or you have an external influence that screws the pooch, the pooch being you.
Ultimately, you have two choices in facing it, play the victim and feel sorry for yourself or formulate a plan and take action to solve the problem. It’s up to you, but know this….a bad situation doesn’t have to be the end of the world.
Manana!
