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Don’t you ever wonder what the thought process is that allows some people to do certain things…to you the end result is predictable, obvious even and yet to some people there is a naivete about them and they do things that make us laugh. Very very hard.

For example…this guy who wrote a rap song about shooting someone. Called out his victim’s name in the song even! I bet he’s sitting in jail right now, wondering why he’s there. DUH! What was the thought process man???

And I also read a story that I thought was pretty funny, not really a what was the thought process, dumbass kind of thing, but funny just the same…here’s the video of a flamingo being recaptured for the zoo that it lives in. LOL!

Then there’s the thought process behind genius ideas that makes me wonder…could I have an idea that made everyone say “Wow!”? Is it possible that I too, could one day inspire awe? Last night I sat down after hearing the hubby exclaim in awe a few times and watched as he navigated the “New Xbox Live Experience” and I gotta tell ya, it kicks ass!

You can read more about it here and see a demonstration you too will be impressed. If you own an Xbox and have an Xbox Live account and haven’t been on in a few days, check it out, you’ll be super impressed and I’m no gamer.

Well anyways everyone, I’m in a great mood today because it’s almost Friday! See y’all tomorrow!

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I’m often asked when I mention MouthyGirl.com to people, what do I write about? Who is my audience? I am always left scrambling for words, trying to explain why I do this and who I’m doing it for.

The simple answer is I do it for myself. I write and hopefully some like minded individuals and even those not like minded, will read what I’ve written and either think I’m crazy or want to read more. The latter of course is what I hope for.

I started this site initially just intending to get my voice out there. To join the chorus of women who have found a place to have their opinion heard, however small a number of people there are listening. To show that my opinion is not unlike others out there and to hopefully attract a community of people who feel like I do about the world and all that goes on in it.

Tired of the bullshit, tired of the games, ready for people to realize what’s important in life and stop all the nonsense. I realize there are always going to be those that love the bullshit, games and nonsense I’m just not one of them, and I thought surely I’m not alone in that.

Honestly I want to parlay this into a magazine someday. Add a few other writers, maybe a couple of review writers too. Maybe one day that magazine will turn into a tv channel or network or something where we can have our own MouthyGirl version of the news. I don’t know, but I have ambitions and thought I’d just let you as my readers lead me where you want me to go. Trouble is you guys don’t talk much.

My overall point to writing this blog is to share an alternative opinion. One that doesn’t care about Hollywood and celebrities and what the tabloid news has to tell us. I don’t have big ideas for a movement of some sort, or an uprising of any kind. Not at all. I just know I’m not the only one out there that’s tired of having smoke blown up my ass by our government, being told that Hollywood determines sexy and working my ass off to end up in credit card debt hell.

I’m tired of being constantly advertised at and having products marketed to me that have no appeal at all, medicines that have side effects that are worse than the initial problem. We are a nation more inclined to drug our children instead of disciplining them and have simply stopped teaching them how to be good men and strong women for our future.

We give our kids diagnoses of ADD and ADHD and prescribe them Ritalyn to slow them down, changing their chemical makeup. Starting a chemical dependence early in life to solve problems. We are a nation always looking for a pill. A cure all. We are a do no work nation, make a pill for it and I’ll take it, but if it involves work, no thank you, I just can’t do it.

I for one am tired of it. Tired of all the bullshit in this nation, the unnecessary bullshit. It’s time for every man and woman in this nation to get with it, get after it and get right. I’m here to talk about that. To talk about things that matter to us. Not always, I’ll deviate sometimes to something silly, but I’ll always try to talk about things that matter to the real people in this world, the ones out their giving it their all every day.

How are you doin?

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We are constantly told how we should look. Always being told (male and female) what we are is not good enough. Well I say enough is enough. I think we should all start taking better care of ourselves, our husbands and our families and letting that world, that inner personal sanctum of life be where we focus all of our energy. Your relationship with your spouse for example…how is it? Have you asked him/her lately?

I’ve gotten out of the habit but for a long time after the hubby and I became more serious I would periodically ask him just out of the blue if we were okay. It opened the conversation up for any criticisms or discussion about anything that he felt we might need to talk about, and it wasn’t during a fight which is undoubtedly the worst time to bring up an issue you have with your significant other.

You have to take care of that relationship, cultivate the strongest relationship that you can, trust him/her and expect them to trust you and don’t do anything to break that trust. Don’t lie, don’t hide things and don’t be an asshole. Most importantly, know what’s important to the other person in this partnership you have. Know what their goals are, dreams and aspirations. It will help you to support them, encourage them, and bring them back on course when they might lose their way. That’s your job after all as their significant other, to be the other half, not necessarily the better half, but do be the other half, not half ass.

Then there’s the most fun part of the relationship. That too needs conversation, cultivation and most importantly, action! You know I’m talking about SEX. Recently I went to a “slumber party” at my sister’s house hosted by her friend, Melody. It was a fun party and brings attention, on a personal and intimate level (without embarrassment) to your sex life. Offering options and new tricks and techniques…it’s important to work your thing, you know what I mean?

Let’s face it people, we all have sex, and if we’re not we’re wishing we were. There’s no reason to be embarrassed about it in my opinion, honestly if you don’t take care of that sex life, it will not take care of itself. If you don’t enjoy sex, find out what that’s all about and do what you can do to ensure it’s enjoyable for you, because it is very important.

Don’t leave your man/woman hanging and only give it up occasionally, after a while they’ll begin to have feelings of self doubt and think you aren’t attracted to them anymore. They may not tell you that, but it’ll happen. You don’t want to be the reason someone else feels unloved and unattractive, especially if that person is your one and only.

If you love someone, love them right. Give it all you have and then more. Don’t expect them to do all the work, and don’t you do all the work either. You have to be the right person, try to be nice, don’t say things you don’t mean and really give it your all. We all have off days, but don’t make your relationship one big off day. Just because you’re past dating and you may have a few children doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have date night. With your partner and one with your kids, they love the idea of “dating” their parents. Especially if they know Mom and Dad still “date” they’re naturally going to want to be part of that.

Love your kids, take lots of pictures of them, make them laugh, tell them you love them and try to remember what it was like to be in their shoes. Remember that they’re just kids and let them be little. Let them be kids. Forgive them when they mess up and show them how to do right. Tell them about sex even if it makes you uncomfortable. Tell them about drugs even if you don’t want to, they need to know what their parents think, or by not talking about it they’ll think it’s okay.

What you don’t address leaves open for your kids to hear from other kids what they think. They want to know what people think, you gotta tell them what’s important to you, because they’ll listen. Talk to them when they’re teenagers about how cute they were when they were little, they like it.

Take care of you and yours. Stop worrying about what the rest of the world might think of you and worry about what your family thinks of you, they’re the ones that matter, your family’s opinion of you is the most important of all.

Don’t let them down. Forget about what goes on outside your front door and realize your priorities again. We get so caught up in the outside world we as a nation have been ignoring our homes, our children, our spouses. Families across this nation have been falling apart for years, kids grow up and get a therapist. It’s time for all the nonsense to stop. We drug our kids instead of hug our kids. Don’t you see what’s wrong with the picture?

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In light of recent discussion, I’ve been thinking over the weekend, more like reflecting on my past relationships. My friendships, the relationship I have with my Mother, etc. I have always felt that having regrets were a sad sad state of affairs and that I never wanted to have any.

In your hardest times in life, you will find out who your friends are, and the saddest thing is most of the time, you walk away from it with less friends and a broken heart. The important thing however is that you walk away from it.

Friends will swear they will be there for you and for some reason or another when the time comes, they are nowhere to be found. Sometimes out of spite we might be inclined to wish we’d never had that friendship, or relationship. But that’s no way to live at all. Regrets haunt you, make you bitter and give you wrinkles.

I think it’s impossible to go through life with no regrets, you will always have some, but ideally they’ll be small regrets. I say this because I believe that even if you’re in a bad relationship, if you can walk away from that having learned something about yourself, having learned anything at all, that’s a benefit that negates regret.

I have had my share of relationships in my life sour, my relationship with my Mom, a marriage that lasted a short short time, thankfully, acquaintances and several friendships that have come and gone through the years. Most of those I’ve learned something from. I think that life is a classroom and it’s our job to make sure we take everything away from it to expand our minds and lives that we can.

I’d like to know if you think so too. Can you tell me something you’ve gained from a relationship that you don’t have anymore, perhaps a memory that you cherish, a knowledge you gained that you never otherwise would have gained, a relationship that was borne of another that is now no longer, even.

We all have struggles and problems but if we learn from experience, including relationship experience, I think we gain the upper hand in life.

I am sure you’ve heard the expression that people come into your life for a reason, season or a lifetime. I believe that’s true.

I often talk about my mother here, and our relationship, or lack thereof - by my choosing. While I am estranged from her now, and that makes me, I believe, a happier person, I would not be who I am today had I not come up that way. I am proud of me on most days and though I don’t understand the way my mom did things, I think it’s a vital part of who I am.

I had friends in high school that taught me the value of friendship and a shoulder to lean on, teachers that taught me things that I still enjoy doing, I learned how to write in high school not just from teachers, but from classmates as well, Ruby, who guest posted here, being one of them.

So now it’s your turn. Tell me some of your experiences, something you’ve taken away from a friendship, a relationship of any kind; teacher/student, parent/child, friend to friend, etc. Something you cherish and would never trade.

Here’s the Monday Mojo video for those of you that were waiting for it.

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Today I want to ask you about your friends….or rather, former friends. The ones who decided for some reason or another that they didn’t want to associate with you anymore. If you know why, discuss those lost friendships with me today, I am feeling a little miserable and would like some company.

Don’t get this wrong, I honestly don’t feel this friendship I have lost could continue after what she said, but I am sad over the loss just the same.

So for what reasons have you lost friends? I’ve lost several through the years and most of them were due to time and distance issues, I am not an incredibly social and outgoing person so I have never really had more than just a few close friends. The loss of one is a big loss to me.

I’m probably not the only person in this country who has lost a friend over this election, or others for that matter. This was a HOTT election, we had the first female ever running for the presidential seat as well as the first black man running for the presidential seat. And the man won. I know a lot of people are happy, and a lot of people are NOT so happy. Sadly a few friendships I’m sure have fallen out due to this. I think it’s a travesty to let politics come between friendships, unless of course, you’re a politician, then you have to be kind of picky I suppose. LOL.

But I’d like to hear from you about this, I know I can’t be the only one. I think the part of this that disgusts me the most about all the crap I’ve heard about Barack Obama becoming president is the racist remarks. When are the people of this country, of this fucking world, going to realize that COLOR DOES NOT MATTER!

But I am a patriot of the worst kind, I tend to think it makes a person appear to be, at least to me, of lesser of intelligence to be a racist, a hater.

I believe racism is a product of ignorance.

Ignorance of the fact that every family has it’s derelict, it’s got nothing to do with race. It has to do with family genealogy, a persons’ free will and how they were raised. I could get up on my soapbox about this all day long, but at the end of the day the result is still the same.

Only a few people will ever hear my voice echo the same thought so many millions of people have had before, to include Dr. Martin Luther King. It’s no mistake that Dr. King was placed next to our president elect on T-Shirts leading up to election day. He had a dream, and it’s being realized. What a day November 4th was!

I got emotional during Barack Obama’s speech at the end of the night, I too believe this country needs work, and a lot of it. All of his words hit home to me and to hear my “friend” tell it, he’s “just” a good public speaker. I don’t think so, I think he’s tapped into the minds of the majority of America and I too believe that the preference for the rich people and corporate America needs to be second to those of us in the middle class, those of us on Main Street, those of us opening businesses and creating jobs. I’m ready for change. And very tired of sacrificing for the morbidly rich.

But my decision has one casualty. The person I thought was my best friend. I realize now that she must have been judging me the entire time and has a really good poker face, but I’m still hurt.

Talk to me folks….even if I’ve never heard from you before, I know you’re there, I know you’re reading. Break your silence today and tell me about your experiences with friendship and what has made, or broken, some of yours.

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Well folks, I think I’ve lost a friend. I think it’s safe to say after two weeks that she won’t be calling me. It’s a sad thing for me. We’ve been friends for just about ten years. I’m mad, but I’m in mourning. She meant a lot to me and despite what a lot of people said about her, I looked up to her because of her strong will and resolve to get the things done that she wanted done in her life.

The saddest part is why. I voted early on October 30, 2008. That evening she and I spoke for a while, not long, but a little bit, I mentioned that I had voted, she asked me who I had voted for, I knew that was a loaded question because I knew from a past conversation that we would not be voting for the same person. But I didn’t begrudge her her opinion, nor did I expect her to begrudge me mine. But I didn’t tell her right off, because I didn’t want to argue with her.

But that’s exactly what she did. She asked me if I had consulted the bible when I did my research, I laughingly responded, “No.” because I didn’t, nor have I ever consulted the bible before choosing my candidate, for anything. That bible was written before America was even founded, what could it have to tell me about the 2008 election? In my opinion, nothing.

Then I told her who I voted for. Then out from her flowed a hate I have never personally experienced at her hand. It dissappointed me on a level I cannot explain. I’ve yet to hear from her after that evening, once I mentioned who I voted for and she said those things that she said, we got off the phone. I sent her a text message when we returned from our cruise, letting her know we’ve returned safely I’ve still yet to hear from her.

I don’t think I will. Honestly though, if that’s the kind of person that she is, that she would let my voting preference be the decider of our friendship, I’m sad to say she must not have been my friend after all. I will have fond memories, but I think that’s where she will stay because I don’t need friends who judge, because boy do I have a lot to be judged for if that’s what she’ll be doing. With each day that passes, the more I become sure that she’s decided because of my vote, that we are no longer friends. I hope she realizes that she may forgive herself and me for my vote, but I don’t feel I need forgiving and I don’t appreciate for a moment being judged by someone who preaches the gospel. That is pure hypocrasy in it’s truest form, and I do not wish to be associated with that.

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Sorry I missed you guys yesterday, my mojo was NOT working at all for me yesterday. I knew that it would show and since I didn’t have anything nice to say…well I decided to write it down and post it today. LOL!

So today, potentially we have a new segment, maybe not every Tuesday it’ll go up, but when I get particularly irritated…I’ll do a Talkin’ Shit Tuesday. Even though I’m ALWAYS talkin’ shit. The idea behind this is to explore an avenue where we run our mouths about what pisses us off.

Like me being pissed off about having to hear about celebrities on the evening news. That pisses me off because I don’t care about them, they don’t affect my day to day life. So HELLO! I don’t want to hear about it every day! It’s bullshit that after I hear about the stock market I have to hear “entertainment news“, how about something really entertaining during entertainment news, like dumb criminals for instance, that’s entertainment and you know there is plenty to pick from, you know this.

Or the irritation I have of eighteen wheeler trucks driving in the fast lane. That is wrong on so many levels that I just can’t believe more hasn’t been done about it. First, it has no business in the fast lane, it burns more gas than the time it saves. Second, it’s too easy to misjudge where a car is and if the truck is speeding, of course it’s lights out for the car driver. Third, they’re too damn slow for the fast lane and I get so irritated when I see the bastards holding me up. Ahem, MOVE BITCH GET OUT THE WAY!

Two highways near and dear to this old area of mine don’t allow trucks in the left lane. THANK YOU TEXAS! Can we now echo this throughout all major highways in the nation please?

Let me tell you what else irks me, all these goofy little tv shows teaching my son how to be a smart ass. Yeah, um Drake and Josh I got a bone to pick with y’all, Zack and Cody, you too, we remember you’re little behind from Big Daddy. We know you can wipe your own asses but that’s not cute anymore. Stop it with the sarcasm.

Maybe I’ll just make him stop watching the little twerps, but I know eventually he’ll get that from me. I’m sarcastic. You didn’t know? Oh yeah. All the time. So realistically, he could be getting it from me and I’d just like to point the finger. Maybe….not.

Another thing that pisses me off of late, is all the bullshit talk about our future president. The first black president of the United States of America. I’m proud of this country. VERY PROUD. The fact that we saw through the skin color and elected a WORTHY president to our nation, one that wouldn’t be more of the same. We took a leap and have landed on someone who I hope like Teddy Roosevelt did all those years ago and lead us into a better day for this nation.

I heard someone say that they thought Obama could be the AntiChrist. I had to stifle a laugh. Really? That person let her fear of change make her look and sound like a radical. She was serious. I don’t begrudge people their points of view and opinions and I’m certainly not going to judge that person for that view, or the other racist things that she said. But I will say my eyes were opened and I was surprised with that conversation, shocked that it would come to that, that she would utter those words.

Ultimately, I am proud of where our country has been, and where it is going. But I must say, as long as there is racism, we won’t get very far. It pisses me off that people I actually know could be so, shortsighted. Beyond that I am without words. It has been said far better than here what racism will do to this country if it continues, or gets worse and I can say at least for myself, that in my opinion no matter what our color of skin, beneath the skin, we’re all the same. Period.

So tell me, what pisses you off? What would you like to talk shit about today?

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