Posted by
MouthyGirl on 08/28/2010 |
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Memories are what they are..and definitely in the past. Sometimes though you have to remember that your past affects you every day. I forget that sometimes and like to believe that I’m as normal as anyone else..
But I’m not. My past haunts me like a creepy poltergeist. My memories contain images that just aren’t right. I shared some if those memories last night with J and he was left with nothing to say..and really what DO you say. I think it helps a little that those close to me to have some knowledge of it because as I said I’m not normal, educating them is only fair.
My childhood was wierd and the one constant feeling I had as a child was one of not being wanted. I always felt as if I were a burden, if you’ve ever met me you know, I’m a very accommodating person in most cases. Those closer to me know the real me. My insecurity and oddly, my confidence come from the same place, the ability to care for myself and lack of fear of being alone is a gift and a curse because I also realize or I should say I expect – to not really be able to rely on anyone but myself.
Sometimes that’s sad and sometimes that’s empowering… depends on the day and the mood I’m in. Ultimately, I am one of those people who doesn’t need anyone. LOL. Its that as funny to you as it is to me? Bad joke I guess. 
Sometimes its painful to walk down memory lane, sometimes I run to get it overwith quicker but I always go there, at least once a day and sometimes more just to remind myself.
It’s necessary for me to go there to keep myself grounded in reality and appreciative of all that I’ve accomplished on my own. Its also important to remember that even family sometimes will be the ones you have to let go of – but at the end of the day, miserably is no way to live. No matter what situation you may find yourself in, there is a way out, a better way, a better life, improvements that you can make to be happier.
Be happy while you can, be around people that love you and won’t hurt you and if you do get hurt, try to learn something from it.
Posted by
MouthyGirl on 04/14/2010 |
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We’re obsessed with sex, its in everything and if you listen to rumor, even Disney incorporates it into their programming and movies. Sex affects everything, your mood, your relationship, your sleep, and even the way that you cope with life. And….your health.
It’s one of the few things in life that is enjoyable, free and good for you and there’s proof but first…a few obvious things to consider:
1. Be with someone that you care about, or at least like enough to have sex with, protect yourself. Life is too short to let consequences from 15 minutes of sex make it even shorter.
2. Throw yourself into it and really feel it, don’t worry about how you look during sex or what he/she might be thinking, enjoy the sex, the moment and especially, the release.
3. Keep it down, unless you’re in a soundproof room and your partner has incredible concentration, try not to be too loud, you’ll not only get your neighbors worried (or excited) but you’ll possibly break your partners concentration and that can ruin everything.
4. Use birth control if you don’t want a baby evidently this sounds simpler than it is….
Don’t roll your eyes at me! Now for the good stuff that says you should be doing it more, you know besides the obvious reasons.
1. For the ladies, sex strengthens the pelvic floor muscles: (straight from WebMD) For women, doing a few pelvic floor muscle exercises known as Kegels during sex offers a couple of benefits. You will enjoy more pleasure, and you’ll also strengthen the area and help to minimize the risk of incontinence later in life (guys love it when you do this during sex, it’s a treat that never goes unappreciated, even if unmentioned). To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor, as if you’re trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.
2. Sex is a pain reliever: As the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increase, and pain declines. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, you can thank those higher oxytocin levels.
In a study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine, 48 volunteers who inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked lowered their pain threshold by more than half.
3. For the men, Reduce the risk of Prostate Cancer: Frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in life, Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International. When they followed men diagnosed with prostate cancer and those without, they found no association of prostate cancer with the number of sexual partners as the men reached their 30s, 40s, and 50s.
But they found men who had five or more ejaculations weekly while in their 20s reduced their risk of getting prostate cancer later by a third.
Another study, reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that frequent ejaculations, 21 or more a month, were linked to lower prostate cancer risk in older men, as well, compared with less frequent ejaculations of four to seven monthly.
4. For the older adults: Sex improves quality of life: While some older folks may worry that the efforts expended during sex could cause a stroke, that’s not so, according to researchers from England. In a study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, scientists found frequency of sex was not associated with stroke in the 914 men they followed for 20 years.
And the heart health benefits of sex don’t end there. The researchers also found that having sex twice or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half for the men, compared with those who had sex less than once a month.
5. This is my favorite one: Sex burns calories! Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.
“Sex is a great mode of exercise,” says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist and president of the American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists. It takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.
So there are all the possible reasons you might need to get over your hang ups about sex, it’s good, it’s good FOR you and it can keep you alive longer.
So go get healthy!
Tags: health, prostate cancer, Sex, weight loss
