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Raising Eyebrows

I can think of situations I’ve been in where people have been surprised at what I’ve said to them. I don’t make problems but I don’t sugar coat anything, its not my job to make other people comfy with reality.  I’ve always considered it a valuable trait, truthfully, as with anything, there is a time and a place where that’s not appropriate and to that end I am completely respectful of those boundaries. 

There have been changes in my life recently that have renewed my sense of independence and I’ve stopped censoring myself almost completely in situations that I don’t have to. Good for me, surprising to some around me. I’ve been subdued for a long time, agreeable…gasp….even likable.  That’s all over now.

My point with this post is to tell you that you don’t have to be agreeable either, some of us live with the belief that we shouldn’t rock the boat, I agree, don’t rock the boat – flip the bitch!  Tell people where they stand, be honest with yourself and everyone else-it’s refreshing.  Raise eyebrows, surprise people with your honesty, deliver it kindly but with purpose, and more importantly – don’t confuse transparency with meanness.

I will warn you though, when you stop creating drama, someone else will – beware.

Tags: blunt, drama, honesty, real

Don’t Be Mad

Talking with my sister a few days ago we were discussing life and talking the way sisters do when she told me that her husband had said she was mean, she kind of smirked when she said that. When she protested he said “No, you’re just like your sister”. LOL! She took it as a compliment.

There are worse things in life than being like me. I do have a reputation, at least it seems to me that I do, for being mean…blunt or very straightforward is what I like to call it. I’ve never been the one to BS people or lie to make someone else happy, not at the risk of my conscience, and I won’t apologize for it.

Life is too short to build it on lies or BS.. that’s kid stuff, you have to outgrow it.

We both approach people with caution and life with gusto, its people that you have to be wary of, they will lie until you don’t know what’s true anymore. Especially the people that want something from you. Is it jaded to approach life like that? Yes, I’m sure it is, but people who really love you will wait and work to gain your trust and they won’t break it, ever.

People say I’m mean, and that’s ok – I’ve been called worse People don’t mess with me, they don’t bring drama to my doorstep and the important people know who to see when they need support, or the truth.

I will not mince words if someone asks my opinion. The worst thing you can do to me is ask what I think or ask me a question and get mad at the answer. I will be honest, don’t get mad.

What is hard for people like my sister and I is when our trust is broken, we forgive readily because we love completely but once that trust in someone is broken…. it is only a matter of time before it all comes undone. Some people can live with it, good for them, I’m just not one of them.

I live by a few principles that I expect my counterparts to live by as well, don’t cheat, don’t lie and don’t hurt anyone if you can help it. I don’t think that’s too much to ask.

Tags: blunt, mean, morals, priorities, sisters