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No one likes to think about it, much less admit it, out loud or to themselves. That side of us that thinks negatively, judges quickly, makes us paranoid and suspicious, that ugly side of us, that we don’t want anyone to see because we know it’s a frowned upon attitude or thought process.

I have that inside me, the UGLY. The ugly makes me think I am ugly and that makes me care what other people think of me. I don’t like to think other people affect the way I feel about myself, but they do. That same ugly makes me think ugly thoughts about other people, I make assumptions that aren’t right, judgements that I feel guilty for later, and other deeds that are certainly not honorable.

I drink far too much. I find it to be one of the precious few things that calms me. Sometimes I feel lost and don’t know what direction to take, wishing I had a clear talent, something I was good at. I have to try at everything…nothing comes easily really.

But I have the UGLY. The syndrome that makes me feel like I’m being judged and where I too am guilty of the wrong assumption. Do you have days like this? Weeks, even months?

Seems sometimes I can’t shake this negative attitude, then for a while I’m doing well and staying positive and feeling successful…

Oh well, tomorrow is GirlFriday and that always cheers me up!

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So much happens on this show so fast! So Petrozza picked Jenn and Christina was left with Matt. Jenn is a bomb waiting to go off and Matt is a fruit loop but I think that’ll work out for the best for them. Those two will have to be watched.

Chef made some suggestions about Christina and Petrozza’s respective menus and has commented behind the scenes as well with his thoughts. Now the restaurant is being reviewed, Christina’s side first, and it’s beautiful, Chef said it was very L.A. But Petrozza’s is also beautiful, and Chef said it reminded him of the Hamptons, Wow!

It’s Go time!

Lots of issues in the kitchen, but it’s two hours into service and Christina’s kitchen isn’t moving. Almost at the end, by my clock there are ten minutes left. Everyone pulled out of their problems and we’re off to finishing…

The service was successful, now it’s decision time. I’ve been rooting for them both, it’s so hard to decide, but I really want Petrozza to win.

And Christina won! She’s a MouthyGirl so I think that’s great. I love that her response required Holy beep beep beep, lmao. And Petrozza is a gentleman till the end.

Til next season my HK buddies!

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No one ever told me that life would be easy and if someone dared tell you that it would be, they’re a damn liar.

The easiest time in life is during childhood or after you’ve won millions. The in-between can be downright hairy if you let it be.

I look at my son these days and find myself so jealous of his charmed life, he wakes up around 10 or 11 or whenever he wants to and watches tv for a while or plays his playstation or whatever tickles his fancy from the many things we’ve provided him to entertain himself.

Each morning that I leave on my way to work, I feel two things, jealousy that he gets to stay home; and pride that I provided a life for him where staying home doesn’t have to be such a boring experience. I didn’t have it so good when I was his age, but things weren’t available then either that could occupy my time like the things that are available now.

Here are some tips that might make the day to day seem less stressful if you can keep your outlook positive. Something to keep in mind anytime you have a fear of being fired or your job being dissolved or anything that creates a fear inside you of looking for another job, think about this, “I was looking for a job when I found this one”. That might make it a little easier to venture out there, update that resume and start spreading it like wildfire over the vacant job listings.

Another expression to keep in mind is to, “Leave it at the door” that works both ways in the professional world, leave your home life at the door as you walk into work and leave your work life at the door as you walk out of work, this helps keep you from carrying all your problems all the time at both places.

Say you’re having marital issues, leave that at the door and don’t think about it at work because letting those personal issues cloud your work will become a problem that takes you back to our first tip, looking for a job, think of work as your respite from life (if you can) and think of home as your respite from work. Leave your issues with each place where they belong, in their place. I know that’s hard, but it’s necessary to keep both lives separate.

Everything you learned about life in high school was wrong and they forgot to tell you that as you picked up your diploma, sorry. But I’m telling you now, time flies faster after high school, and high school doesn’t prepare you for the real world. “F” means FIRED, not fail and retake in the real world.

There are no rules, only laws, goals and morals. How you handle the grey areas in between laws, goals and morals is up to you, but know that you have to own what you sell. If you walk confidently and present yourself as a take charge person, someone who can fill the spaces where they’re needed, you better be able to do it.

Likewise if you mope around work everyday and do as little work as possible and spend as much time surfing the internet on their dime as you can, you have to understand why you’re being replaced. You may not like it, but if that’s how you are in your work ethic you have to own it and realize it’s probably your fault you got shitcanned.

No one said it would be easy to be an adult, no one said it would be fun and there’s no silver lining at the end unless you create it for yourself now. So don’t count on everything turning out roses in the end if you didn’t put some good quality mulch down and plant those babies.

Life is hard, but being unprepared for the stress that accompanies life is much much harder. Walking into life prepared is an advantage that not many parents give their children. We coddle our children and tell them that every thing’s okay when it’s not and everyone’s a winner when they’re not and time out is what happens when you do things wrong. BULLSHIT, it’s go hard or go home and if you break the law, you go to jail.

Don’t go looking in your neighbors’ yard, thinking their life is coming up roses because life is better over there, their grass is only greener because they have more shit. Cultivate your garden of eden with things that make you happy, hobbies that make you feel good and surround yourself with people that you can tolerate and you’re off to a head start.

But I have to leave you now because, I owe, I owe, so off to work I go!

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Let’s face it ladies, we can be intimidating. Those of us that have confidence, a good job or are in school trying to get to that good living in the future and have goals and plans, we can be hard to approach. We put a lot of time and effort into looking put together, and ladies when it works, we can be a little idealized in a man’s head and he shuts down for fear of doing anything we won’t like.

MouthyGirls are pretty, smart, funny, outspoken, friendly people we get along with virtually anyone and so sometimes it’s that whole fear of rejection thing that gets to a man, he might think, well what if she’s out of my league?

Speaking up when you have something to say and not sounding ignorant and combining all of the elements that make up a MouthyGirl or any female that is successful make us sort of like a muse. Then there’s always the thing where he knows who you’ve been with and is afraid you’ll compare them. Logically, we know that the people in the past stay there, but that doesn’t always ease the mind of the object of your affection.

So let’s help him out a little. First of all, we’re all people. At the end of the day we all have to put our pants on one leg at a time. No matter how worldly a woman is or who you think she’s been with before, if she’s with you, alone, you’re ahead of any other guy out there.

Ladies, I think we need to be more literal when we speak to men. If you want him to kiss you, say so, be friendly and laugh at their jokes if you aren’t already. Tell him he looks nice and say something about his shirt that you like, using that as an excuse to touch his shirt or get close to him and maybe even move in for a kiss. I’m a firm believer in sending a clear message.

Look him up and down, then raise your eyebrows and smile at him in suggestion while he’s looking at you so he knows you’re into him.

Talk about things you’d like to do, movies you’d like to see, mention one that maybe the two of you should go see together because you think it would be fun. If by this time he doesn’t seem to be understanding where you’re leading things..they’re always the classic objectifying symbol that is grabbing his ass.

So what do you do to let him know you want him? This question is not just to the single people, you married folks have a few tricks up your sleeve, what are they?

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I agreed to do something I had no idea how to do, having never done it before. But I know me and I knew that I would make it happen, how hard could it be? I agreed to redo a brochure for the investigative agency that I work for, can’t show you yet because we’ve not finalized it, right now it’s a draft.

Monday we’ll be posing for a picture for the front of the brochure, mind you the faces will be blurred for security reasons I have to say, I’m quite proud of my product so far. I won’t typically agree to a job I can’t do, as I can complete most tasks I agree to take on, there are rare occasions something prevents me from doing what I promised and it’s usually not because of me.

Recently I agreed to get several toughbooks up and running for my boss as well, old police units. But what he was wanting done was impossible to do for free. They all have to be upgraded in some way to accommodate what he wants. Free is the keyword and because of that, I wasn’t able to perform that task, but the reason was external to my ability. I can still do it if he allows a small upgrade to the system.

Regardless, my point is that yesterday I wrote about people that make promises, or talk themselves up and then don’t come through on their word. They talk a good game but when it comes to bat they strike out. I don’t, won’t and can’t work like that. I’ll tell someone if there’s something I can’t do, I’m not too proud to admit there are things I don’t know. And some I just don’t want to know.

But overall when I agree to do something, it’s my word on the line and I take that very seriously. How seriously do you take your work? Do you value your work enough to be sure it’s the best work you could put out? Or do you take the shortcuts and corners that get you done faster, but doesn’t necessarily show how talented you are?

I believe in always putting my best effort into something I’m doing otherwise it’s not worth doing. I never know if something I did, worked on or wrote is going to be scrutinized, and if that happens I don’t want to come out looking like a chump because I didn’t put the work in for a quality product.

How important is a work ethic? What do you think of yours?

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You know who I can’t tolerate? The people who talk themselves up and make it sound like they can do everything and you can’t do anything. A perfect example for my Hell’s Kitchen fans is Chef Bobby, all talk and no action. Or as I call it, full of shit.

I’m one of those kind of people that won’t ask someone else to do something I won’t do myself, unless I simply can’t do it myself. Like working on my car, I can’t do that but hubby can so I have to ask him to do it.

When I hear someone talking about all the shit they can do and all that they can accomplish or have accomplished, I expect the same kind of results out of them that they brag of and when I don’t see it, my trust in that person is gone.

I don’t understand why anyone would make themselves seem more capable than they are, it’s disappointing and you make yourself look foolish to other people, tarnishing your reputation. Through my job and life experience I’ve become more aware of the people around me and why they’re there. I watch people and I’m suspicious of almost everything.

When I begin to trust someone and have expectations of them based on their professed abilities, and they don’t come through on their word, I can’t help but distance myself and find ways to avoid that person. I prefer to spend my time with people of their word, not pompous, self involved jerks.

What types of people piss you off or irritate you?

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There are some changes due at my job and new employees will be coming on board soon, in light of this I decided to write today about accepting a job offered to you.

Can you keep up with everyone else at work? Manage to get your job duties done every day and find solutions to problems when they arise? Are you a proactive person or a reactive person?

Proactive means that you might spot a situation about to occur and you step in to correct it and make everything come out as it should. It means you have a grasp of your job/position/company well enough to know when something is about to happen, and you subsequently take the necessary steps to prevent and fix the issue.

Reactive means that you don’t see anything coming because you don’t know all the facets of your position/job/company and don’t expect when a problem comes your way, and most times you have to scramble to correct it as fast as you can, sometimes making mistakes along the way because you were in a hurry.

Being proactive takes a lot of work and discipline, it takes diligence in watching over your job and all that occurs with it, including the people you interact with that have an affect on your performance. Tolerating shoddy work is for the birds, I gotta tell you if I were an employer, I’m not sure I’d be liked very much.

Don’t take a job if you can’t do everything in that job description. Don’t expect to be able to learn your way into something completely new to you. It’s not fair to the boss, you or the other employees to have the burden of training someone 100% for their new job. That accounts I think for nervousness, when you walk into a new job knowing that you can do that job, it takes the pressure off because you know you are capable.

Gotta run because 8:00 is two minutes away and I have lots of work to do. Have a great Monday everyone!

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