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Child Support

Having a child is a commitment unlike any other in life, it is at times the heaviest responsibility and at others…the most delightfully spiritual relationship you’ve ever had. Children are a lot of work and as they say, don’t come with instructions.

My ex’s sister said to me once that I was lucky that he even wanted to be involved with my son. At the time I laughed at her ignorance and to this day it is still the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard another female say. All that aside, us moms are not “lucky” to have to deal with our exes, our children deserve both of their parents – fair, adult parents, unless they’re a disgusting criminal like my ex became.

My lawyer told me once that at a proceeding I couldn’t make it to that my ex had told him that he would never pay more than $400 a month in child support. It wasn’t about my son for him, it was about what was going into my pocket, regardless of the care I took of my son, the money I spent being sure his needs were met and he was fed and we were insured, etc…it is no small feat to carry a household alone.

None of that was even a thought. He asked me once why I even needed it because I was doing fine. LOL! Asking an inane question will get you an inane answer, I said, “I gotta get my whiskey somehow”. Huzzah!

For those of you that pay child support, it’s not about you, it’s about being sure your child can have the things in life that you did not, and a single parent cannot do that most of the time. At best a single parent can provide the needs and a little of the wants on Christmas.

Get over yourselves and take care of your kids.

Tags: caretaker, child support, children, christmas, household, irritated, lawyer, money, proceeding, ridiculous, single parent, spiritual relationship, stupidest thing, whiskey

What Did You Really Want for Christmas?

It’s no secret that Christmas is not my favorite holiday, when I was a kid it was, of course every kid loves Christmas…that’s before the bills.

On Christmas Day I looked at pictures people happily posted of their trees with presents everywhere, so and so had a visit from Santa and so forth. Yay.

I didn’t even put up a tree. I felt a little guilty because my son didn’t get to see Christmas represented in our living room with a tree, lights and ornaments, under which my cats like to hide and occasionally topple the whole structure.

We told him what we were getting him on Christmas Eve so he wouldn’t wake up feeling empty handed, he was happy.

I wanted to keep that money for me though. Is that terrible? $280 bucks! Do you know what I could do with $280 bucks? Pssssh! Honestly, the kid has a rotten attitude most of the time, but I couldn’t think of anything else he would want that hadn’t already been bought for him.

What I want to know though is what you really wanted for Christmas. What was it, did you tell anyone you wanted it? Did you get it?

I wanted to go shopping, as much as I hate it on any normal day, when I want to go I really want to and I wanted to go shopping very badly over the weekend. I had family engagements though, and now the mood has passed.

Tags: all I want for Christmas, Christmas gift, kids, money

It’s Not Enough

Materialism. I admit I am guilty of it, I want what other people have just as much as the next person, but I also have a habit of convincing myself why I shouldn’t buy something, needed or not. Most of the time, the miser in me wins.

What really helps is that I despise shopping and turning my money loose. I find however that I have an urge to travel more and more, I want to explore the country and find favorite places to visit.

I want to fill photo albums with memories. I want to tell my Grandchildren about adventures I had and places I saw, people we met. I’ve spent a lot of my life already looking at walls and waiting for paychecks, waiting for this and waiting for that. I’m ready to start doing and going, being and living.

I announced to the hubs that I would like for us to begin to position ourselves, financially, in such a way that we can live off of one income and save the other. It was met with surprise, then disbelief and finally resignation as it was realised that I am very serious.

I do not want to spend my entire life working. Due to this I’ll be spending a little time soul searching and exploring my ideals for this website. I have dreams that I have been subconsciously subduing and it’s high time I start taking the steps to realise them.

This is gonna be a ride, and after all that’s what life is designed to be right? A journey through – exploring what there is to explore and creating memories worth keeping. I’ve been existing, and that is simply not gonna be enough anymore.

Tags: creating memories, disbelief, dreams, favorite places, grandchildren, journey, live on one income, materialism, miser, money, paychecks, photo albums, resignation, vacations