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Dating and Interracial Relationships

by MouthyGirl

I struggle with what to write sometimes. I think about so many things, and it’s like the thought process for me is in three second fragments. I’ll be thinking about grocery shopping, and then I’ll be thinking about school, then laundry and dishes and it goes on and on and on and on…like the Foreigner song don’t stop believin’

Honestly since we got back from our cruise I struggle with what to post nearly every day. Then there are times like at Christmas, where I can sit down and come up with like eight posts in five minutes. That was craziness. I have rare moments like that. I’ll have to start looking through my emails of post ideas I’ve sent to myself over the past that I haven’t used yet. You’d be surprised how often ideas come to me in the middle of something else. Sometimes I’ll think it’s a good idea and I’ll send a note to myself, sometimes I’ll just forget it because I don’t think it’s a good post idea.

I’m kinda flighty that way. I get most frustrated when I deliberately sit down to write and come up with nothing. So today, after much thought and consideration, I’m going to write about a conversation that I had recently with a coworker. She is Vietnamese and a single female lawyer. (I’m having flashbacks to Robot Chicken’s Single Female Lawyer skit, lol.)

She was talking about her dating woes this I found interesting because of course, anything racially motivated is interesting. I’m nosy I guess, but I like to know our differences from other countries and races, culturally. I’m just interested in stuff like that.

She had mentioned before that she wouldn’t date white men anymore, and I never had inquired as to why, but this time I took the opportunity. Well, a loaded question it was, I was enlightened with her answer.

She said that she wouldn’t date white men anymore because from her experience, she said, “They could love me to death, literally love the shit outta me, but they’ll never love me as much as they love themselves.”

Wow! I thought. I’d never thought of love this way, at least not in regards to any of my relationships. Of course when someone relates something like that you look back over your current and past relationships and wonder if that rule applies to yours.

I won’t divulge the findings as I go over my history, but what do you think about this? Do you agree? Disagree? Have a similar observation to share?

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Streaming Suicide Live

by MouthyGirl

Last Friday, Abraham Biggs, a 19 year old college student, committed suicide streaming live on Justin.tv in Miami, Florida. A friend emailed me the story that made AOL News, but nothing I heard about on local news.
After reading the story I had to consider what I would do if I were watching someone streaming live on the internet who was threatening suicide. Having never been faced with this type of situation, I don’t think I can say what I would do, I would like to think I would contact the website administrator to contact authorities because they would most likely have the information on the individual person to better direct the police to this person’s location so that they could receive the proper help.

But, because I was not watching this I can only speculate what my actions, or reaction would be. In reading the accompanying article, it’s said that he’s threatened suicide on numerous occasions, I can only believe that these people were regulars in chatting and corresponding with Mr. Biggs. If that is the case, I can only say to those who did nothing, “Shame on you!” Regardless if the threat has been made previously or not, a threat of suicide is a cry for help. Clearly, no one answered that call until it was too late for Mr. Biggs.

Further, there were some who egged him on! Can you believe we have such callous people in our society? I guess it’s naive of me to believe otherwise but I am horrified that someone would encourage another to end their life.

Having been touched by the affects of suicide in my personal life as a teenager, I can tell you that losing someone you love to suicide has lasting effects on a person’s psyche. I cannot fathom losing a child to suicide. Rosalind Biggs, Mr. Biggs sister has lost a brother, and says in the article that she does not understand and that it was unexpected.

There is no understanding the motives of suicide, and it is NEVER expected. She will always be left with questions, with “Why?” and trying to grasp at reasons, something to justify what happened. But there is no justification, he has robbed his sister, his parents and nieces of a future with him, watching him turn into a man, raise a family of his own and grow old.

So I ask you, What would you do?

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