I can think of situations I’ve been in where people have been surprised at what I’ve said to them. I don’t make problems but I don’t sugar coat anything, its not my job to make other people comfy with reality. I’ve always considered it a valuable trait, truthfully, as with anything, there is a time and a place where that’s not appropriate and to that end I am completely respectful of those boundaries.
There have been changes in my life recently that have renewed my sense of independence and I’ve stopped censoring myself almost completely in situations that I don’t have to. Good for me, surprising to some around me. I’ve been subdued for a long time, agreeable…gasp….even likable. That’s all over now. 
My point with this post is to tell you that you don’t have to be agreeable either, some of us live with the belief that we shouldn’t rock the boat, I agree, don’t rock the boat – flip the bitch! Tell people where they stand, be honest with yourself and everyone else-it’s refreshing. Raise eyebrows, surprise people with your honesty, deliver it kindly but with purpose, and more importantly – don’t confuse transparency with meanness.
I will warn you though, when you stop creating drama, someone else will – beware.
